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          It is quite clear from Scripture that the One Who created man and woman, and established the sacred institution of marriage, intended the relationship to be one that would last a lifetime. Words from Scripture like “…the two will become one flesh…” (Matthew 19:5 NIV) and “…what God has joined together, let man not separate…” (Matthew 19:6 NIV) accentuate the permanence of the relationship.

          I don’t know what the divorce rate in the USA is today. The last report I read indicated that nearly 50% of first marriages end in divorce. That being the case, it is apparent that in many cases either one or both of the two people who come together in marriage are not serious about a lifetime commitment. There is the idea that marriage is something to be tried on and then returned if it doesn’t fit. Many think of divorce as an easy way out of an undesirable situation. The local Comedy Club used to offer to provide a professional comedian to entertain at your divorce party. If you think divorce is a laughing matter, just talk to people who have struggled through that traumatic experience. Listen to stories of children who are emotionally scarred for life as a result of a failed marriage.

          Contrary to what we hear from those promoting the ‘open marriage’ concept, a lifetime commitment to fidelity is essential to the longevity of a marriage. Infidelity is without question a major factor in marriage destruction. Some believers, including preachers, have fallen prey to this despicable sin. Since not one of us is exempt from being caught in this deadly snare, prevention is absolutely essential.

          In his biography of Billy Graham, A Prophet With Honor, William Martin addresses Dr. Graham’s relationship with his wife Ruth and their five children. He explores how this man avoided the scandals that have plagued other evangelists. From the earliest days of his ministry Dr. Graham says, “I took precautions…I’ve never had a meal alone with a woman other than Ruth – not even in a restaurant.” There is wisdom worthy of note in that approach. While there is technically nothing wrong with such an encounter, the risk that a more serious, intimate relationship will develop is just too great. As it is the case with a deadly disease, the best treatment is prevention.

          Here’s a thought for this Valentine’s Day: Could we use this occasion to reaffirm our lifetime commitment to the sanctity of marriage, to pledge fidelity to our mate, and to determine to work toward putting each other first? I believe we could and should do that!